Let’s Take a Walk Back to my Younger Self Thoughts on Emotional Regulation

My adolescence is a blurr, mostly. Being in a high school that I did not particularly like, may have something to do with it. Or may be I was busy recovering from the trauma of a portion of my primary school. The fact that our memory does obscure information from memory may also be aContinue reading “Let’s Take a Walk Back to my Younger Self Thoughts on Emotional Regulation”

Let’s Talk About the Challenges of Adulting

See this quote from Anne Lamott: You will go through your life thinking there was a day in [school], that you must have missed, when the grown-ups came in and explained, everything important to other kids. they said, ‘Look, you’re human, you’re going to feel isolated and afraid a lot of the time, and haveContinue reading “Let’s Talk About the Challenges of Adulting”

Let’s Have a Conversation About Truth

ALL TRUTH IS PARADOX. This words I first read from one of my favorite writers Anne Lamott. And like most of the time when I come across something profound, I will always find a way to incorporate it into my life. For some reason though, those words stirred up a lot of dissonance, not thatContinue reading “Let’s Have a Conversation About Truth”

Let’s Talk a Little About Pre-colonial African

“What is your belief system? What is the one guiding principle that governs your life, irreducible minimum if you will, the one thing you cannot compromise on?” Toughest questions ever thrown at me. Not so much because they are tough questions, but like many people, I realize or they awaken me to my shallowness. MoreContinue reading “Let’s Talk a Little About Pre-colonial African”

Let’s Talk About Collective Agikuyu Trauma

Today has been a particularly emotional day. I am currently reading two books concurrently, that’s Facing Mount Kenya and Maina wa Kinyatti’s Agikuyu:Waiyaki, Kimathi,Kenyatta. Both are heavy reads because I am coming into the reality of what happened to my ancestors, the Agikuyu people. Reading British Gulag gave me nightmares for about a week, becauseContinue reading “Let’s Talk About Collective Agikuyu Trauma”

Let’s Talk About Sex Education, What Do Our Ancestors Have to Say?

Reading ‘Facing Mt Kenya’ on this chapter of ‘Ombani na Ngweko’ then on to the next chapter on marriage and it’s amazing to see how our ancestors understood sexual energy and put measures in place to make sure it’s diffused in a healthy manner. Looks like our unhealthy views and puritanical interaction with this subjectContinue reading “Let’s Talk About Sex Education, What Do Our Ancestors Have to Say?”

Let’s Talk About the Trap of Capitalism and Emotional Regulation

The trap with the capitalistic system is that it pushes you to be competitive. And that then will manifests as feelings of jealousy towards those you perceive as your competition or that are doing better than you. Competition means you are always comparing against something, are on a fight or flight mode, are hyper-vigilant, areContinue reading “Let’s Talk About the Trap of Capitalism and Emotional Regulation”

Let’s Talk About Imposter Syndrome….

I think one of the things I have struggled a lot with is how I am perceived. I suspect it’s not just a me problem, especially because every institution you interact with, be it school, college/university, Church, home etc is always putting an emphasis on how important it is to maintain a certain image. AndContinue reading “Let’s Talk About Imposter Syndrome….”

Let’s Talk About the Lies Perpetuated About African Culture as Primitive and Backwards and to What End…

By Anjana Kagume My great grandfather was a medicine man. His name was actually Kagume. And he used herbs and plants to heal people. He could go as far as the forest to find some specific plants. This must have been something he learned from his own father though I don’t have that information. HeContinue reading “Let’s Talk About the Lies Perpetuated About African Culture as Primitive and Backwards and to What End…”

Let’s Talk About Faith in Things Hoped for and not Seen….

In my teens, I was very idealistic. I thought I had my life figured out. Even saw in my diary for back then I had planned to get married latest by 25. Well I also wrote I hope to be a practicing psychologist by the time I got to 30 years of age, and thatContinue reading “Let’s Talk About Faith in Things Hoped for and not Seen….”

Let’s Talk About Boundaries….

There’s a cucu (grandmother) who I was talking with recently that taught me the value of the greetings in the Agikuyu culture. I also came across an article that tried to expound on the same. Basically the greetings were a way of enforcing boundaries so that you know there are lines not be crossed. Interestingly,Continue reading “Let’s Talk About Boundaries….”

LET’S TALK ABOUT UNDERLYING ISSUES DURING THE DEVELOPMENT OF OUR GIRLS THAT HAS AN IMPACT ON THEIR DECISION MAKING PROCESS LATER IN LIFE

We will call her Jemima. When she was in form one, let’s call him James, their class teacher took note and an interest in her because she was a good student. By good I mean she always excelled in her studies, was in good standing as far as keeping the School rules is concerned andContinue reading “LET’S TALK ABOUT UNDERLYING ISSUES DURING THE DEVELOPMENT OF OUR GIRLS THAT HAS AN IMPACT ON THEIR DECISION MAKING PROCESS LATER IN LIFE”